Emotions and feelings are complicated and very very difficult.
We as people for some reason need to justify everything. This happened and now I’m angry, I’m sad because this happened but sometimes you find yourself having emotions that seem to come from nowhere. Particularly I’m talking about less positive emotions when you feel sad or lonely for no reason and you just can’t quite put your finger on why you feel this terrible way.
I think a lot of the time people are almost embarrassed by their feelings because they think they shouldn’t be feeling this way or that they don’t have the right to be feeling them, what they’re going through isn’t that bad or that other people are going through things that are worse and just overall that they’re not in the position to allow themselves to feel this way. Do you ever find yourself in a situation or you feel like talking to someone because you don’t feel good and you can’t because all you can say is I feel shitty and I don’t know why? But you can’t say that. That doesn’t make sense, right? Because no one ever talks about feeling this way even thought I think everyone feels this way a lot of the time. I feel like it’s almost just completely human nature to feel this way it’s like an inedible part of life. And what I’m describing a lot of people can point out and say oh that sounds like depression, but that’s another thing. That people often self-diagnose themselves because they feel a certain way or they have certain characteristics or traits that are commonly found in certain mental illnesses and they decide that they’re depressed or their friend is bipolar. Mental illness are debilitating…they are hell. There is nothing good in thinking that is what you have. I think we owe it to these people who suffer from these mental illnesses to not just toss out the words like they mean nothing. I think we all need to take a step back and realize that this is an illness and not just a feeling or an idea. They’re obviously people who really do suffer from depression and if you feel like you might be or there is something wrong and you want help then you should, by all means, seek help. Back to my point…I think a lot of people self-diagnose themselves because it is a way to justify their feelings. I must be feeling so down because I have depression. Like I said before…you don’t need to have an explanation for everything.
We are humans! We have feelings.
We must feel them. Life is great…people are great…there is so much to be happy about. But there is also so much to be sad about and there is no reason to stop yourself from feeling sad. You can’t stop your emotions. You can’t stop your thoughts. So just feel them. Being ashamed of your feelings only enhances all the negative energy. You don’t need to find ways to force yourself out of a rutt. You don’t need to find excuses for how you feel. I get this wave of emptiness a lot. I feel sad and alone. If you were to ask me how I felt in that point of time I would say absolutely miserable. This is something that I deal with and I’ve dealt with for a really long time and from communicating from close friends I’ve come to believe that a lot of people feel this way or that they’ve experienced this way. It’s not really a topic people discuss so it’s hard to realize how common it actually is. Because we like to jump to conclusions and decide that people have certain illnesses and this and that it’s almost taboo to feel this way unless you have a way to justify it. We’re human! You’re supposed to have these emotions. Also, most of us are rising adults, teens, this is the most emotional roller coaster time of our entire lives. We all need to take a step back to understand that and know that a lot of people are feeling this way, around us. Also another quick side note sometimes we feel really strongly about certain situations that we don’t think we deserve to feel strongly about so very relatable examples like your weight or how your appearance or something that happened or didn’t happen with a SO or a crush. That you don’t have enough justification for your feelings with that person. All of these problems that people push away and say oh you shouldn’t feel that way about this or that, they sometimes cause problems like negative emotions. I would be more concerned if you didn’t feel anything than if you felt too much. We’re humans. We feel emotions! What is too much? I feel like a lot of people I meet are characters. they are their personality and that’s it and then you meet some people who are people and you see a bit of yourself in them and you see how they can think like you, feel like you etc. I think a lot of people have this superiority type thing. It’s complicated. I feel like we all need to understand that feeling like no-one else feels the way we do or feeling like we can’t share the way we feel because we can’t justify our feelings with other people only isolates us more and makes us feel even worse. Those relationships where you can talk about your emotions and breathe are really special.